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Intimate Partners With Low Self-Esteem Stay In Unhappy Relationships

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People with low self-esteem are more likely stay in unhappy relationships, according to a recent study.

Researchers at the University of Waterloo found that sufferers of low self-esteem tend not to voice relationship complaints with their partner because they fear rejection.

"There is a perception that people with low self-esteem tend to be more negative and complain a lot more," researcher Megan McCarthy said in a statement. "While that may be the case in some social situations, our study suggests that in romantic relationships, the partner with low self-esteem resists addressing problems."

For the study, researchers focused on intimate partner communication. They tested the impact on a relationship when one partner suffers from low self-esteem.

"We've found that people with a more negative self-concept often have doubts and anxieties about the extent to which other people care about them," McCarthy said. "This can drive low self-esteem people toward defensive, self-protective behavior, such as avoiding confrontation."

The study is important for understanding how intimate partner communication can help improve the love lives of people around the world.

"If your significant other is not engaging in open and honest conversation about the relationship," says McCarthy, "it may not be that they don't care, but rather that they feel insecure and are afraid of being hurt."

The research suggests that people with low self-esteem's resistance to address concerns may stem from a fear of negative outcomes. Sufferers may believe that they cannot speak up without risking rejection from their partner and damage to their relationship, resulting in greater overall dissatisfaction in the relationship.

"We may think that staying quiet, in a 'forgive and forget' kind of way, is constructive, and certainly it can be when we feel minor annoyances," said McCarthy. "But when we have a serious issue in a relationship, failing to address those issues directly can actually be destructive."

McCarthy, along with her research colleagues, have plans for a second study that will look at how increasing a low-self-esteem partner's sense of power or influence in a relationship can promote more open disclosure.

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